Improving self capabilities
The past cannot be changed, but you can change the way it affects you. You must leave the past behind. I know we can't control others or the way they treat us, but we can control our
reaction to them.
Make a vow to yourself that you will no longer allow anyone to control your life, your reaction to him, or the events he causes. Take control. I know that you alone choose the way you live your life. These things do not require a fundamental change in your personality, but only a total commitment to put the past behind you, and to think about the possibilities of the future, not the failed experiences of the past.
We adjust our behavior to suit the situation. Think about this: we talk to our parents differently than our children, colleagues or superiors. Our true being comprises a group of selves, some of them more experienced and better looking. If we look at ourselves in this way, there will be more opportunities for change, rather than committing ourselves to one alleged self and going through all kinds of torture to fit in.
In order to change anything in you, you must accept this fact: there are things that you can control, and others that you cannot control. Low self-esteem is due to the cumulative effect of how your parents, friends, relatives, or other valuable people treat you. That is, the solution to the problem lies in the past.
The past cannot be changed, but you can change the way it affects you. You must leave the past behind. I know we can't control others or the way they treat us, but we can control our reaction to them.
Make a vow to yourself that you will no longer allow anyone to control your life, your reaction to him, or the events he causes. Take control. I know that you alone choose the way you live your life. These things do not require a fundamental change in your personality, but only a total commitment to put the past behind you, and to think about the possibilities of the future, not the failed experiences of the past.